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I grew up in a family of 2 religions. My father is a Jehovah’s Witness while my mother is a Catholic. Surprisingly, I chose to be a born-again Christian. I don’t know if they noticed but I actually tried both in my younger years.
I studied JW’s books and read a lot of literature from and about them. I can still remember the stories from their yellow book which contains Bible stories for children. I also studied what they teach about heaven and hell, the way to heaven or paradise, who is Jesus, who is Jehovah, who is Archangel, why they don’t celebrate birthdays and many more.
I also studied Catholic doctrines. I learned why they repeat prayers. I actually practiced praying that way for a while. I studied about Mary, Jesus and God the Father. I read about the role of priests. I was curious at how they can say “Your sins are forgiven”. I used holy water when I attended the mass.
So why did I end up being a born again Christian? You may say I got confused studying both teachings that I decided to try a new one. Certainly not. If there is one thing these 2 religions agree, it is the fact that there is life after death. Knowing that, I am concerned about my own destiny and I am also concerned about my family’s destiny. This is actually my daily heart’s cry. I believe that I have found the truth in becoming a Christian and I want my whole family to be Christians as well. This desire affected much of my life. This is actually the main reason why I refused opportunities to work in Japan for a year. I could have saved a lot if I grabbed any of these opportunities but I want to always be with my family. I want to be available when they begin to ask about my faith. I want to take opportunities to share my faith to them. Unfortunately, I am always afraid of rejection. I am afraid that I may not be able to explain fully that they may stray further away from the truth. I tried many times but I failed to share everything. Now, this is my step of courage. I am publishing this blog and will email my parents so they can read it. I will share here why I believe what I believe.
1. I believe in heaven and hell. It is easier to believe in heaven than to believe in hell. I also had many questions in my heart why God created hell. But the fact is, hell is mentioned many times in the Bible, even more that it mentions heaven. The Bible is full of warnings about hell. So how does that reconcile with the teaching that God is love? God is love because HE provided a way to avoid hell. In fact HE gave His only begotten son to save those who will place their faith in Him. We deserve to be punished because of our sins but by His grace HE sent JESUS to save us.
2. I believe that the only way to heaven is JESUS. There is no other name under heaven by which we will be saved. The “no other name” includes each of us. We cannot add to what Jesus already did on the cross. When He gave up His spirit on the cross, He uttered “It is finished.” This means salvation is by faith alone. I believe that I am going to heaven. Why? Not because I think I have less sins or I have done many good works but because Jesus died for me. I am holding on to His promise of salvation in much the same way that the thief beside him on the cross believed Him that He will bring him to paradise. It is very crucial to believe in him alone. No additions. The Bible says that the way to heaven is a narrow one. It does not say that you have to try and worship all gods so you can be sure. We have to choose only one, and that is Jesus.
3. I believe that we can have direct access to Him. We need not and should not pray to saints, not even to Mary. Prayers are only for God and no one else. If we pray to anyone other than God, that is a violation of the 1st commandment to worship God alone and no other.
4. I believe that I am a sinner saved by grace alone. My works are just results of my faith. They are not to be added to my faith to receive salvation.
5. Baptism is a means to announce to all that you are already a Christian. It is not the way to be a Christian. To become a Christian, you must confess your sins, repent and have faith in what Jesus did on the cross. Recognize that you cannot save yourself.
6. I believe that Jesus is not just an Archangel. HE is GOD Himself. HE was not created. HE is the creator. The term begotten is actually a designation. It does not say that Jesus was created. The Bible says that it is by Him that all things existed and continue to exist.
7. I have experienced Jesus in my life. How? It is not about feelings. I noticed that I did change. I was able to forgive those who have hurt me. I was able to see my sins and repent from them. My life now has a purpose. I am no longer chasing the wind. I am far from perfect but I know that many things have already changed. God graciously sent many friends that thought me about the Bible and Christian living. HE even provided so I could attend a support group that helped me overcome traumatic experiences.
8. I do not need to repeat prayers for my heavenly Father knows of my needs and wants even before I utter them. Prayer should be truthful and personal. When I pray, I recognize that I am speaking to God.
9. I believe that Jehovah is God’s name.
10. I believe Jesus should be worshiped, as seen in the many examples in the Bible. Jehovah is a jealous God but HE never reacted negatively to any instances where Jesus is worshiped. Jesus follows Jehovah and HE never refused people worshiping Him. Jesus is not an angel.
11. I believe that the Holy Spirit is God and is not only a force. The Holy Spirit grieves because of our sins. He is the comforter and our prayer warrior. The only unforgivable sin in the Bible is blasphemy against the Holy Spirit. Blasphemy means lack of reverence to God.
12. I may not fully understand the holy trinity but I am just following the Bible’s instructions to worship Jehovah, Jesus and the Holy Spirit.
The above are some of the reasons why I believe what I believe. How does that affect my marriage? Our faith and God’s grace has kept us together. I am so happy that we can worship God together as a family. Our 16-month old son is already enjoying praise and worship songs. When our own resources fail, we are able to love each other because of our fear of God.
It is my ultimate dream that I will soon go to church with my parents also. That could be the happiest day of my life. I can vaguely remember that my father thought I was just following my friends when I asked permission to go to a Christian church. No. I made the decision after many nights of studying the Bible. I took it seriously. I pray that they would soon see the truth.
How do you express yourself when you are angry or hurt? Read on and discover how you can improve communication within your marriage. These tips can help you stop divorce from its roots.
1. Never say “Never”
When we are hurt or angry, we tend to generalize. Imagine what you would feel if your partner tells you the following lines:
You never loved me.
You never respected me.
You never stood by me.
You never listened to me.
When you are tempted to use “never” or make any generalizations, think for a moment. Honestly search your memory. Is it the truth? Even if your spouse is weak in that area, try to remember the times when he actually did it right. My husband once told me that he will be greatly encouraged if I will notice the things he does to please me instead of complaining for other things.
Note that this does not only apply to the word “never”. This is about NOT being quick to generalize when things go wrong. Notice that the following lines will have the same negative effect on your partner.
You always come home drunk.
You always fail.
You always choose your mom over me.
You are always complaining.
2. Practice saying “I feel _____ when you ____.” Instead of saying “You ___.”
Instead of saying “You don’t care for me.”, you can say “I feel unloved when you don’t remember my birthday.”
What is the difference? The first one attacks the character of your partner. You are already drawing conclusions. You are not giving him an opportunity to explain what is in his mind or what actually happened. If you seem convinced with your judgment, why would he bother to explain his side?
The second line explains clearly what you feel. You are allowing him to see where you are coming from. This will give your spouse a chance to correct his wrongdoing or to do better next time. Your partner will better understand the effects his behaviour has on you. It also does not block the lines of communication. Note that in expressing yourself that way, he will see you are not making premature judgments. Thus, he will feel free to explain his side.
3. Know that this is a myth: If he loves me, he should know what I want.
Some of us choose to be “silently angry”. This is not at all a good alternative to express yourself. Yes, it is possible that your partner loves you and he does not know exactly what you want. In fact, many couples suffer due to unexpressed feelings or resentments. You are more likely to resent your partner if you keep your dissatisfactions and complaints to yourself.
Instead of being silent, learn to express yourself in a way that will not destroy your partner or your relationship.
4. Never let the sun go down while you are angry.
Keep the durations of your fights or misunderstandings short. The longer you keep it, the greater the damage. Why? The damage will multiply if you allow your emotions to deceive you. If you don’t settle your misunderstandings, you give way for more miscommunications and wrong assumptions. Unsettled fights make a good foundation for destroying relationships.
5. Avoid talking when you are at the peak of your negative emotions.
It is easy to speak foolishly when we are at the height of our emotions. Allow yourself to cool down and be able to think clearly.
Also give time for your partner to settle down. If your partner is angry and is unable to control his emotions, do not fight back. I understand that during those times, you will want to answer back. Hold back because it may not be the best time to talk. Instead of fighting back, you can write what you feel. This will also help you process your thoughts. When he is ready to talk, you can allow him to read what you have written. Better yet, you can express your “processed thoughts” to him. Processed thoughts are better than raw emotions. Be sure to be honest, though. Do not hide your pains as this will not be helpful in the long run.
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Are you thinking that divorce can make the lives of your children better? Check if you believe any of the following myths about children and divorce.
1. It is better for the children if the parents divorce since they are always fighting anyway.
Recent studies show that this may only be true for high-conflict marriages. High-conflict marriages involve domestic violence and emotional abuse. The extreme conflict destroys the ability of the couple to nurture their children.
Yet, 2 out of 3 divorces are of low-conflict types. Imagine how many innocent lives could have been saved if their parents chose to work-out their relationship instead. The solution is to stop the fighting, not the marriage. Your children need you more than anything else.
2. Children of divorced parents will learn from them and will most likely have happy marriages
Yes, it is true that children learn from their parents. In fact, they unconsciously copy the ways of their parents. This must be the reason why the risk for divorce is doubled for children from divorced parents compared to those who came from intact families.
Schools do not teach our children how to be a good wife or husband. They learn from what they see in us. It will take much effort for your children to reverse the values they have seen from you.
3. Having children is enough to stop you from divorce
Researches show that the likelihood of divorce is highest in the 1st 7 years of marriage. They also say that one of the most stressful periods in marriage is the birth of the first child. This is when the rush of responsibilities comes in. This is also when your time for your spouse will be significantly lowered due to maternal or paternal duties.
If children are your only reason for staying, this may not sustain your marriage in the long run. You and your partner should find long-term solutions to your problems.
I believe your children are of utmost importance to you. In divorce, you force your children to suffer for your own decisions. The above are just 3 reasons why you must avoid divorce at all costs. It is never too late to save your marriage. The sooner you act, the better your chances to save your marriage. This is the best gift you can ever give your children.
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Many factors contribute to divorce: children, lack of education, financial instability, religion, irreconcilable differences, etc. The list of risk factors or reasons for divorce are many but in the end, it is still the couple who decides the future of their marriage. To build a lasting marriage, we must learn the dynamics of teamwork and ownership.
To whom much is given, much is required. With privilege comes a proportional share of responsibility. Marriage is a great blessing that comes with much responsibilities. Children are wonderful blessings and they also present great challenges to the marriage.
From the time of birth until my college graduation, life has been like following the norm. From birth until my first step at the school premises, I was to stay at home and play. After grade school comes high school. After high school comes college. When I decided what course to take in college, I made the decision on what I would be after college. I decided to be a computer engineer.
The real challenge comes after college. There is no more clear direction on where to go. In school, we are given the curriculum and we are to enroll on each of the listed subjects. There is not much freedom except for the choice of electives. After college, I was not given a curriculum. What lay in front of me is a vast range of opportunities. Some would choose not to practice their college education in their choice of careers. In my case, I chose to practice my degree. That went relatively easy too. I did not take much risks. I just implemented what I have been trained to do.
After about 5 years of working, I accepted Sebs’ marriage proposal. Here comes another challenge. In marriage, we are to be responsible for ourselves and for our future children. We are to make our own heritage as a family. As a wife, I can either be a treasure or a snare to my husband. In the same way, my husband can either make me a better and more beautiful woman or destroy what my 1st family invested on me. As parents, we can either raise a responsible adult in Ethan or make him a liability to the society. We are responsible for what we become as a family.
It is about ownership. This is our family. No one will take the responsibility from us. We do pray regularly. God is the author of the marriage and it is God who will keep the marriage. God is not a scape goat, though. If the marriage fails, it is because we failed to follow His lead. God will not spare us of our responsibilities to each other and to our children. God will guide us through His word and we are to execute what we learn. God will give us the opportunities and challenges. We are to be responsible on choosing and embracing the right opportunities. We are to keep our foundations strong in facing the challenges.
My parents were amused to see us in our early years of marriage. They said we looked like we were just playing ‘bahay-bahayan’ (i.e., just acting like husband and wife). That is certainly not true. We took it seriously. We plan our future together. We dream together and set goals. We dreamed of having our own house, our own car, and a baby. Thank God, we got all three on our 2nd year of marriage. We are still paying for the house mortgage monthly and hope to finish it before Ethan turns 10. How did we get the house and car? We prayed, planned, and worked hard for them.
We not only talk about our material future. We also talk a lot about our relationship. We analyze what triggers our fights. We talk about what works and what does not work for us. We also share how our hurtful words affect each other. I was once terrified on the effect of my angry words or my lack of words to my husband. It made him feel worthless and unloved. After that, I became more conscious of my words and actions. I acknowledge that I can make or break our marriage.
Looking for excuses for the failure of marriage or blaming anything or anyone for the troubles will spell failure. Troubles will come and go. We welcome disaster by indecision or lack of action. We can use them as opportunities for growth. Good times will help inspire but bad times can help strengthen marriages.
We are not a perfect couple but we are willing to own up to our responsibilities. This is our family. Whatever happens to our family, we are accountable. The success or failure of our marriage depends on us. We are
committed to make this work as a team.
For any marriage, time is always an issue. How each of you manages your time will affect every member of the family. Teamwork requires that we wisely spend quality time with our families. Read on to see how time budgeting makes quality time possible.
Our only son Ethan and my husband, Sebs are my greatest treasures on earth. If you are to ask me who are my top priorities, they are Ethan and Sebs. I realize though that this should be clearly communicated to both Sebs and Ethan. How will they know that they are my top priorities? I love numbers and so it is easy for me to look at it mathematically. My priorities will actually be revealed on how I spend my 24 hours everyday.
I like budgeting our monthly income. We maintain a list of regular monthly expenses and allotted budget for each item. We decided how much money to spend on each item by taking a look on our actual expenses. For example, I know that the average meal for our family only costs P200 per day. So we are to spend P200×7 for meals. I also allot P500 for other household needs like soap, sponge and cleaning materials. Knowing this, we allot P2000 per week for the grocery.
The same principle can be used to budget time. I listed my activities for the day. This will include: quiet time, cooking, working as QA, daily cleaning, taking care of Ethan, exclusive time with Sebs and me-time. Quiet time takes 30 minutes to an hour. Cooking and daily cleaning will take up about 2 hours. My work as QA should only take up 4 hours. Me-time takes about 1 hour. I should be sleeping for 8 hours. This means I should be able to give 8 hours of undivided attention to Sebs and Ethan.
It is easier to spend more time with Ethan because my child is only 15 months old. His schedule and mine are completely synchronized. We are always together. This will change when he is ready for school.
Time budgeting should include time for your partner. This time should be used exclusively for him/her. Exclusive time means time spent for him, ideally without anyone interrupting, not even your children. This will help keep your marriage healthy, make your bond for each other stronger, and make your marriage affair-proof. Ultimately, time budgeting will help you in building lasting marriages. Now, realistically, my husband has his own schedule, unlike Ethan who is always with me. So I am to schedule these exclusive times when we are together and when Ethan is busy with something else or is sleeping. For us, an hour of uninterrupted talk time daily and 1 exclusive date (Ethan not coming with us) per month will do.
You should be asking where is my time for myself. I called it “me-time”. I do spend 10-30 minute breaks throughout the day. I usually spend this watching a 10-minute cooking show or reading or browsing the net or experimenting on the kitchen. Why only 10-30 minute breaks? It is mainly because my son is too young to be left on himself. I get my break times when my husband is already home or when Ethan is sleeping. He takes care of Ethan while I relax.
This is how I budget my time. This is one of my ways of taking control of my life. This is my way of loving my family. I am sure you have your own schedules to follow. Do consider how you budget your time. How you spend your times speaks a lot of what you value most. It is an integral part of your teamwork in building lasting marriages.
In building lasting marriages, you need to work as a team. Teamwork requires that both the husband and wife be able to make positive contributions to the marriage. Teamwork does not encourage extreme dependence nor does it applaud arrogant independence. Read on to see how you as a wife can make the marriage work.
Do you feel like you will also disappear when you lose your husband? Or are you on the other end, saying: “You can go away! I can live without you!” to your man? Emotions are powerful. We can go from one end to another based on how we feel at the moment. But it is worth evaluating who we really are, even while in a relationship. What does cleaving means to you? Does it feel like you are losing yourself? Should it be that way? Will it be better to isolate or protect yourself from your partner? So who are you, dependent or independent wife?
I read this from the book: How To Encourage the Man In Your Life:
The best way to be healthy as well as to be an encourager in a relationship is to be healthily independent or interdependent. The person whose identity is found through others often ends up with relationships that are addictive .
Dependency in relationship is not a Christian calling except for being dependent upon God, which all men or women are called to be.
An independent woman thrives on individuality, few restrictions and self-gratification. She finds her identity through herself.
But there is a third option called interdependence. The interdependent woman has a strong sense of personhood and bases this upon being affirmed by God. She knows she has been given gifts and is willing to use them, but she can also rely upon others. This woman views others as her equal and also values herself. Are you an independent, dependent or interdependent woman?
It opened my eyes that there is actually a third option. I was aiming for that but I was unable to describe that option. I wanted to be dependent and independent at the same time. I do not always want to be dependent. Neither, do I want to be independent at all times. I do want to be interdependent. This is related to my search about the consistency of healthy self-esteem and true humility. It is about acknowledging your true strengths and allowing others,especially your partner to help you in your weaknesses. This is much like the concept of synergy where 1+1=3. The partnership of 2 individuals results to more than just the addition of individual accomplishments. They are able to produce more.
This is a powerful tool both partners can use to enhance their relationship. This could end the power struggle that could easily break relationships.
To my dear fellow women, let us not waste our gifts. Let us use them not only to encourage the men in our lives but also to enrich our own selves. A wife can either be a gift or a snare. Let us become gifts.
I am blessed to have a husband who cherishes me for who I am. I pray that your partners will also find the treasures in you.
I pray that you can say this to yourself and your partner: “I am a wife of worth and dignity and you are a husband of worth and dignity.” This will spell much difference in how you view each other. This will spell teamwork in marriage. This is the kind of teamwork that builds lasting marriages.
It happens to the best of us. Communication is such a fickle thing, and the lines of communication can become blurred every so often, especially when feelings are involved. Even those who think that they are immune to the confusion of conflict can find themselves drawn into a communication breakdown when they least expect it, and chaos ensues.
This happened to a friend on the weekend, and until to be quite honest, it took them by surprise. Even those of us who are better equipped than many others are not immune. A few cutting words from a loved one, hurt feelings, and a defensive retort that left both with regrets. It was a silly argument, over something as simple as a misplaced bottle of soda, the lid off the juice, or newspapers not picked up. But to them, it represented something much deeper that had been simmering away for a couple of weeks until the frustration reached breaking point.
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There was intense frustration at having to search for something when it is not where it was expected to be. Worse still when one person shifted it and the other didn’t know the first place to begin searching.
Searching for that particular shirt or needles and thread, lost car keys, a document missing from a drawer, missing covers for the outdoor chairs, all were examples of instances where the house had to be turned upside-down. A moment’s thought or a supportive reply when these things were discussed would have saved a lot of time and frustration. And the answer that was received? “You need to open your eyes and organize yourself better”
This off-hand comment characterized the undercurrent of misunderstanding and lack of compassion that had been running through the relationship for quite some time. One partner did the majority of the household chores and felt aggrieved that their efforts weren’t recognized.
Praise or gratitude was not expected, but simple recognition was. Getting told that “I don’t expect you to tidy the house or cook my dinner every night” was interpreted by my friend as ingratitude, and hurt her even more.
So where to from here? My friend’s partner felt guilty at coming home every night to the perfect household, whereas she felt guilty if it wasn’t perfect. It was never about her trying to make him feel guilty, but it seems it did. And this is where the communication fell down. He misinterpreted my friend’s efforts, and she in turn misinterpreted his response.
Communication, communication, communication. My friend needed to be considered when things were not put back in their place. When two people live together it involves and adjustment in routines, habits, and attitudes. Some consideration of her feelings needed to be taken into account in order for the relationship to move forward.
There was a need to voice frustrations before they get to boiling point. What was needed was a commitment to talking about feelings more often, and in such a way that both partners could do so without judgment or consequence. Open communication was the key to their success, rather than suppressing feelings.
When people feel guilt or stress, it leads them to act funny ways. Often stress and guilt are barriers to communication. The key to overcoming them is to recognize what it is, and have the courage to talk about it. You might be able to do it as a couple, or you might want the help of a friend who can listen to the way you are communicating with each other and offer insights and advice.
They got it sorted out, and kissed and hugged. It wouldn’t hurt so much if you didn’t feel such love at the same time. But it serves as a good reminder to all. Sometimes you get so wrapped up in your own emotions that you forget to think of the other person. You also need to entertain the possibility that you are misinterpreting each other. Talking about it is the way to expose the miscommunication and let the healing begin.
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Everyone of us would like to have our own houses. We want a permanent address. In much the same way, all of us hope to build lasting and healthy marriages.
It is inconvenient to move from one house to another. Packing and unpacking are tedious work. In a much larger sense, divorce and the life after that is costly and devastating. Baggage from past relationships are real but are not always welcome in second marriages. It is difficult to live with regrets even if you decide to remain single after a failed marriage.
So how do we build a marriage that will last a lifetime?
To consider a house livable, it should have the essentials. These essentials depend on who will occupy the house. Some would like to furnish the house completely before moving in. Others can live with the bare essentials – roof, walls, windows, doors, comfort room. They decide to move in early and then furnish the house little by little. From experience, you cannot complete the house until you finally move in and see what is lacking and what needs improvement.
I would say deciding to marry is much like building your own house and deciding to move in. Some would want to prepare a lot, be it financially, emotionally or spiritually. Some would like to be financially stable before they ask the hand of their girlfriends for marriage. Some would like to be established in their vocations first before they open up for serious relationship. Some would like to be trained emotionally and spiritually before even considering romance. As in the case of the house, I think no one can really be prepared enough for marriage. After the wedding, so much work awaits the blissful honeymooners.
There are times when after moving in to the house, you realize that major rework needs to be done. This can actually be avoided if you had it done by professionals. Houses have blueprints. Engineers review and approve these blueprints prior to implementation. Your engineers or architects will also ensure that the houses are built according to specification. Unfortunately, we do not have blueprints and engineers for marriage. We cannot hire professionals for this. Noone can accurately show you in paper how your marriage would look like. There are endless possibilities and much of it depends in your implementation. Unlike in building houses where there can be a lot of workers, marriage is built primarily by only two people – the husband and wife. Rework cannot be avoided. Surprises await you. You will find that you have a lot to learn about your husband or wife when you finally decide to live in one roof. What worked before may no longer be appropriate now. What used to be interesting for both of you may no longer be appealing to your partner.
Unlike the work of building a house, marriage work is constant. Foundations will need to be strengthened again and again. We will be discussing these foundations of healthy and lasting marriages in the coming days.
In building your house or even in improving an old house, much can be learned if you look around. You do not have to do it by trial and error. You can observe and learn from what you see in other houses. Although you can not accurately predict your marriage, you can learn from the successes and failures of others. You need not make the same mistakes. You can copy what worked for others if you think it suits you. In this site, we will be posting experiences and tips of some couples regularly to encourage this kind of learning. Some of us may just be starting to build our own marriages. Some are a few years ahead already. Maybe 10, 20 or 30 years ahead. But all will agree that we have a lot to learn thru all these years. Even the experienced ones may sometimes learn from the beginners.
This site will try to cover both the essentials and the seemingly trivial details of building marriages. We believe that the work of building lasting and healthy marriages are done daily. Marriages do not get strengthened in a few months of work. With this in mind, we will give you also practical tips that can help you in fulfilling your roles as husbands and wives daily.
We are a young couple who wishes to help and join hands with you in building our own marriages. We believe that families are fundamental to any society. We don’t believe in divorce. We believe in life-long unions.
I am a mother to a 14-month old cute and quick-learning baby Ethan and a wife to a diligent pastor/student/IT consultant/PM Sebs.
I am privileged to work with the best. My 1st job was an engineer/PM in Canon. I believe in all modesty and honesty that Canon houses some of the brightest in the Philippines. My 2nd and most recent is that of web QA for Construct Zero, Inc. It is also one of the biggest e-commerce company today. I have been learning a lot in my 7 months as QA. On some weeks, I also managed to help develop a web site for government health care.
That is who am I on the “outside”. Digging in, I find that I am a dedicated mother, housewife, daughter and sister. I love my family very much. This is precisely the reason why I left my work at Canon. I want to take care of Ethan presonally.
My everyday schedule goes on like this: quiet time, cook for the entire day, feed Ethan, work for 2 hours, feed Ethan, work for another 2 hours, play with Ethan, serve Sebs as he arrives home, play and rest with Sebs and Ethan. This is a fairly regular schedule. I realized that this is me, I want things on schedule, somehow organized. I want my day to be optimized.
In between these time slots, I manage to wash dishes and fold laundry. Someone is helping us do the laundry and clean the house 2x a week. As dedicated as I am as a housewife, I am not good at housekeeping. I find that I will be more productive working than doing housework. This is why I did not totally stop working. I want to learn more. I want to produce more. I want to use time wisely.
When Ethan “permits”, I am also able to enjoy experimenting in the kitchen. I try chicken recipes , carrot cake, oatmeal cookies and pasta recipes. I am not yet an expert but I am determined to improve in my cooking.
This is my newest addition to my “regular” schedule. I will sneak time to write blogs. I target to learn from blogging so I can better help my family and also have more budget for those under my wish-list. =) I also want to hit another bird with this. I want to influence people for the better, I want to promote the things I believe in. I am not good at service (throwing parties, cooking for others) but some are telling me I am good at speaking. I want to explore this part of myself and see where God leads me.
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